Wow, I hardly know where to start. It was a little unsettling to read this book while realizing we are contemporaries but the way we see the world couldn''t be more opposite. I would have rated it even lower except that it is well-written and it does evoke emotion. There are...
Wow, I hardly know where to start. It was a little unsettling to read this book while realizing we are contemporaries but the way we see the world couldn''t be more opposite. I would have rated it even lower except that it is well-written and it does evoke emotion. There are so many similarities in our lives that it''s spooky! I grew up about three years behind her, about the same distance from OkC east as she was west. It''s crazy that one of my sons is now the principal at Piedmont High School and lives in Yukon. Another son lives in Midwest City in one of those houses she talks about having been built by the unnamed contractor (I can give you the man''s name if you want, don''t know why she leaves it out . . . oh, and he gave hundreds of jobs to returning WW II vets). My family is Scots-Irish. They were farmers, sometimes "on the halves" but when they didn''t have land they picked cotton or worked for the railroad or in the oil field or grew sorgham to sell molasses. They were poor, money wise, but had each other. My dad was from a family of ten ( two died early of disease) and my mother from a family of eight. My parents dated for five years, not getting married because Daddy was helping support his parents working at a filling station, seven days a week for forty cents an hour. My mother borrowed $40 from an uncle and went to Edmond to Central State Teacher''s College. She kept house for families for room and board and managed to earn a teaching certificate. After a semester of teaching they got married but she went back to her school up by Enid and he lived in the back of a store.
I was born a year later, not long before the war started. Daddy got on the "gang" at Oklahoma Natural Gas Co. (another comparison to the author!), with a raise to 45 cents an hour plus overtime. They bought a little two bedroom house which they lived in until Mom passed away five years ago and I''ve now lived in the same house my husband and I bought in 1969 for $11,000. Reading this writer''s story, although so many of the things are familiar, our worlds could not have been any different. It was never an issue with us if we were rich or poor. Daddy washed and waxed cars on weekends and Mom delivered telephone books, making $7 so she could buy herself
a winter coat. Another comparison found in the book . . . our family car for about ten years was a 1949 Ford. For this writer to BLAME
her bad life on a state and the people in it is ridiculous. I''m sorry her mother had a bad life. I''m sorry it carried on to their family. But they could have lived in Pennsylvania or Wisconsin or any other such place and with the way they were all so dysfunctional it would have been the same. It''s just that her only knowledge is of Oklahoma so she insinuates the "Okie" background is what ruined a "normal life" for her. For anyone else reading this, we in Oklahoma do not call ourselves Okies . . . that designation is held for those from this part of
the country who "ran away" to California. We have a saying here (actually I think it''s Will Rogers who first coined the phrase), when the Okies moved to California, it raised the IQ of both states. I wonder if the writer realizes how many times she uses the word "rich." And it always refers to money, not just a rich life. Somehow she gets the idea that if someone is successful and has "stuff" that they''re the enemy. How sad. Why does that matter so much to her? I have a feeling that the writer accidentally or intentionally embellished some of her stories. There are gaps and misconceptions that don''t fit timelines. I KNOW Ok Nat''l Gas company had medical insurance for their
employees during the time she said they didn''t because my mother had surgery and I took the papers to her in the hospital to fill out.
She can say her prostitute friend "serviced" the entire OU football team if she wants to but I''d say that''s not only ridiculous but basically impossible considering at that time there were about 100 players on the team. But it makes a good story. I could go on but there''s one in particular that I must clarify . . . well, just flat out deny. My family are fifth generation members of the church of Christ. When she describes the service she supposedly attended in San Antonio it''s totally inaccurate. I''ve been to services all the way from Moline
Illinois to Midland TX, including San Antonio. We do not have musical instruments (as per the scriptures) but I have NEVER been to or even heard of a church that did not have singing. In fact, the churches of Christ are widely known for their congregational singing and that goes back well into the 1920''s. In fact, I have song books from that era and heard my grandfather talk of going to a singing school in Waco TX held by L.O. Sanderson in the 1940''s. I also have never been to or heard of a congregation that divided the men from the women. I do think, though, it''s possible that there could have been a "maverick" congregation in San Antonio where she attended. But
either she''s mixed up, has a faulty memory or just thought it would add to her "woe is me" life story. Reading this book has been quite
helpful. I''d always wondered how these angry people got to be that way. Reading her book all I see is how she blames her miserable life on everybody and everything else. She was so easily swayed by one person or book or idea, nobody liked her, she was ugly because she was part Indian, or whatever. If she''d just been rich then she would have been happy. Good grief, no wonder she had migraines. I hope she''s better and has forgiven her parents and all the others who wronged her. That''s pretty cathartic.